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Date Smart

Transform Your Relationships and Love Fearlessly

By Carla Marie Manly

Sometimes we have HUGE expectations for the ideal relationship, but dating isn’t about being perfect or catching the perfect partner; it’s all about creating compassionate self-awareness and stronger self-esteem. A must-read for daters, this no-nonsense guide from clinical psychologist Carla Marie Manly, PhD, takes the guesswork out of dating with real-life examples, the latest research, and 33 vital mindset shifts designed to foster:
  • empowered communication,
  • strong, healthy boundaries,
  • realistic, mindful expectations,
  • increased red flag awareness,
  • healthy dating dynamics, and more!
Self-discovery is key to healthy relationships. Your life will change when you discover how to date strong, date fearlessly, and date smart.

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"Date Smart is an eye-opening, transformative read for any person seeking healthier relationships. Dr. Carla Marie Manly’s attention-grabbing style takes readers on a journey that enriches self-discovery and romantic relationships alike. Dr. Manly highlights the common dating and relationship issues that create angst and frustration and offers intelligent insights to create healthy, genuine change."
—Orchid D. Johnson, PhD, MS, PhD, LMFT, LPCC 

"What a page-turner! Dr. Carla Marie Manly’s Date Smart is a stellar relationship resource for anyone, regardless of age or gender. The depth of sensitivity and attention she pays to the importance of self-knowledge, self-respect, and personal boundaries is refreshing. Date Smart is a life-changing read. You won’t want to put it down!"
—Denise L. Wagner, PsyD, LCSW

"Simply marvelous! Date Smart is a must-read for everyone. Whether you are in a committed relationship or looking for one, Date Smart highlights all the key elements of what constitutes the foundation of strong, healthy relationships. This captivating and easy-to-read book utilizes real-life examples of what to do and what not to do when dating. Dr. Manly assists the reader in identifying the vast array of problematic issues that are ever so prevalent in our society today and how to tackle them head-on. She provides assertive yet respectful examples of how to respond when others violate our boundaries and clearly states what is acceptable and not acceptable when dating in the 21st century. Dr. Manly recommends the top 12 must-have conversations every person should have with a potential partner to ensure a long-lasting, healthy, and fulfilling relationship. Date Smart will not only motivate you to take the steps needed to find your best match but will leave you hungry to learn more when it comes to cultivating your personal boundaries."
—Jasmine Alexander, MA, RPC, RCC, CCC, CCPCPR

"Finding love is not easy in today’s tumultuous world. Date Smart, the eye-opening brainchild of Dr. Carla Marie Manly, manages to strip away the chaos and mixed messages to give readers clear, authentic tips and tools for creating healthy relationships. Date Smart is THE book to help daters of every age and gender find genuine, lasting relationships."
—Michael White, PhD, psychologist
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July 20, 2021