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The Art of Showing Up

How to Be There for Yourself and Your People

By Rachel Wilkerson Miller

A modern roadmap to true connection—first by showing up for yourself and then for others

If you’re having trouble connecting with those around you, know that you’re not the only one. Adult friendships are tricky!!! Part manifesto, part guide, The Art of Showing Up is soul medicine for our modern, tech-mediated age. Rachel Wilkerson Miller charts a course to kinder, more thoughtful, and more fulfilling relationships—and, crucially, she reminds us that “you can’t show up for others if you aren’t showing up for yourself first.” Learn to fearlessly . . .
  • define your needs, reclaim your time, and commit to self-care
  • ask for backup when times are tough—and take action when others are in crisis
  • meet and care for new friends, and gently end toxic friendships
  • help your people feel more seen (and more OK) overall!

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“Miller has penned a fresh, wise, practical, modern guide for figuring out how to be true to yourself while also meaningfully connected to others. An important contribution to the larger, complicated project of solving loneliness.”—Priya Parker, author of The Art of Gathering

“Rachel has this great emotional intelligence *and* the ability to translate it into accessible tips on cultivating meaningful relationships.”—BuzzFeed Books

“Journalist Rachel Wilkerson Miller gives great advice about being honest when people ask how you're doing, plus a detailed guide to how to show up for people in small and large ways.”—NPR Life Kit

“Rachel Wilkerson Miller's "The Art of Showing Up" covers almost everything you need to know about forming and maintaining adult friendships while also taking care of yourself.”

“The millennial’s Chicken Soup for the Soul.”—Fortune

“Wilkerson Miller’s discussion of friendship goes beyond answering texts on time, building healthy adult friendships, and other easily palatable topics. Instead, she gets frank with her audience about the moments that impact our friendships most.”Bitch Media

The Art of Showing Up is as pragmatic as it is inspirational . . . [these days] stylish and accessible guides to showing up as our best are more appreciated than ever.”—

“Excellent tips for forging relationships with others and becoming an even better ‘old’ friend.”—Library Journal, starred review

“An easy, entertaining guide to adult friendships. . . . [Miller’s] charismatic voice will appeal to any reader of self-help. Those looking for help braving the social unknown will want to take a look.”—Publishers Weekly

“[Miller] charts a course to kinder, more thoughtful, and more fulfilling relationships.”New York Public Library

“Rachel’s advice is smart, straightforward, and empathetic. The Art of Showing Up offers a roadmap to becoming a better friend and happier person. Read this book!”—Alison Green, author of Ask a Manager

“In a time when we’re more physically disconnected than ever, this book is a must-read and all of Rachel’s methods and tips translate to connection online and not just in real life.”—Hitha Palepu

“This is an incredibly practical book full of easy, yet meaningful, ways to develop more friendship and love in your life. Through steps that anyone can do, Rachel helps us find the support that we all crave in our lives and leaves us feeling ever more hopeful!”—Shasta Nelson, author of Frientimacy

“Rachel Wilkerson Miller has given us a toolbox for strengthening our relationships with one another and with ourselves. This book is the resource that twenty-, thirty-, and fortysomethings were missing—and that we didn’t know we absolutely needed.”—Caroline Moss, coauthor of Hey Ladies! and host of Gee Thanks, Just Bought It!
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May 12, 2020